Whether you were the one to make the break or not, whether you were the one to make the mistake or not, you are still the one who wants to get back together with your ex. This means that you will have to be the one to make the first move, and you will have to be the one who makes the most effort. This will also mean that unless your ex is fully committed to the relationship, if at any time you do get back together, your new relationship with your ex could become decidedly lopsided.

However, that can’t be helped and if you truly want your ex to come back to you, you might want to try these two little words – I’m sorry. They can work wonders if you are the one who is most at fault, and if you mean them sincerely. There’s nothing like a little sincerity to get things off the ground. However, “I’m sorry” is a very powerful thing to say, and if you are not the one who messed up, or you are not the one who is responsible for the breakup, then uttering these words in vain could bring down repercussions on your head. If your ex is not fully committed to the relationship you could have just handed on a platter the way for them to control the way that the relationship works and how it runs. So unless you want to get your ex back at any cost, you will want to be very careful about how and when you utter these two little words.

On the other hand, if you really are partly responsible for the breakup of your relationship, then you need to put aside your pride and go to your ex to make reparations for what you have done. (Only if you want them back of course!) Another thing about these two little words that you need to know. When you say them, you need to be sincere yes, and you also need to accept that even though there might be blame on the other side of the equation, sometimes you will not hear these words uttered back to you. Such is the power of these two words that sometimes the listener completely forgets that they might have had some part in the blame as well.

But since your goal is to get your ex back, if you are alright with shouldering the responsibility for the downfall of your relationship, then you have found of the perfect way to get back into the good graces of your ex. You should also be prepared to have your words thrown back at you and repulsed. It really all depends on how and what happened to make your relationship break apart. So, although you might go in all humbleness and sincerity, you might find that your advances are still repulsed, but then again this is part of what you chose to accept when you decided to get your ex back at all costs.

... continued in the book