This is it, it’s crunch time and you need to decide what you want. Basically, you need to decide whether you want to get back together with your ex or not. At a guess your decision by this time goes along the lines of you wanting your ex back.

But is that what you really want? Do you really want to get back together with the person whom either you left, or who left you? Won’t you be better off staying away from that person, than trying to get back together with him/ her?

If you’re pining away because you had a good relationship, or what you perceive now to have been a great relationship, (because people always paint things as lily white when they’re no longer involved with something), you might want to think a second or two before jumping right in to try and salvage something from your broken relationship.

For one thing, if you’re only wanting to get back together with your ex because you’re finding it difficult to sustain a proper relationship with, or even find someone to have a proper relationship with, then you need to take the time to look over the reasons why the breakup occurred in the first place.

If it’s been sometime since you first broke up, you might find that you’re wearing rose colored glasses where your relationship, and the eventual breakup, is concerned.

Think about whether your relationship was really as good as you remember it, and why you broke up in the first place. Were the reasons compelling ones, are you now, looking back on it, seeing only the good bits? What about those times when you absolutely couldn’t stand something about your relationship, but you soldiered on anyway?

Are these reasons for splitting, all surmountable ones, and more to the point are you willing to surmount them if you get back together again?

I keep saying it, but here it is again, take the time to decide whether you really want your ex back, and why.

If it’s a reaction to having broken up, then you should think about why it is that you want your ex back. If it’s for any of the reasons which I mentioned above, then you might want to think long and hard about it.

So along with the “Why” of why you want your ex back, you also need to think about whether you want your ex back. Sure, you might think that you want your ex back, but is this truly what you want? Are you prepared to deal with whatever it is that caused you to break up to begin with?

Are you willing to get back together with that person, to be part of a relationship, again? Are you willing to put up with the various quirks and foibles of that person again? Are you willing to tone down your own quirks and foibles so that you can both be happy?

I know, I know, too many questions, and for something as simple as getting your ex back. But these are very important questions and like I said, it’s crunch time. You need to get your act together now, before you make any decision about which action you will ultimately take.

If nothing else, you need to decide whether you want a life and a relationship with your ex again, or whether you want to map out a different course for yourself, one that doesn’t contain your ex.