Actually, the title of this section should be “Sex – when to use it, and not”, because undoubtedly we will just about all of us use sex as a weapon at one point or other. The deciding factor on whether we used it correctly, is whether we used it at the right moment, and in the right way.

For instance, makeup sex can be great – as long as you’re still with your partner and you’re only trying to makeup for an argument that you’ve had. If this is case, you can use every type of ammunition at your disposal to get your partner back in a good mood with you. If on the other hand, you’ve broken up, or you’ve decided that your relationship needs some space to define it, then you might want to think twice about having “makeup sex”, because at this point, it won’t be makeup sex.

You will be trying to prolong or put off the inevitable, and this doesn’t always work the way that you would want it to. If you’re on the verge of breaking up, or you have already done so, this is clearly an indicator that you have problems. These need to be sorted out first before you can have makeup sex. This is a no-brainer as otherwise you will find these unresolved problems clouding up the issue. So when can you use sex as a way and means of getting your ex back?

Well, that is really a very complicated answer, and I will take it in small pieces so that the waters don’t become too muddy. One thing that you should realize about using sex, either as a weapon or a means of getting your ex back though, is that if this is the only reason your ex comes back to you, you might find that it’s not enough and that your relationship is just not what you want it to be. So think long and hard before dragging sex into the issue, and definitely before you use it as a means of getting your ex back.

That said, perhaps it’s time we moved on to what you really want to hear about, right? Whether to use sex, and when.

... continued in the book