Who dumped whom?

Often times, if a relationship goes sour, or tempers fray and issues bubbling just beneath the surface come to a head, then you might be left reeling from the suddenness of it all, even if you had been expecting something like this for some time now.

In these cases, it is always easy to concentrate on the blame game, and blaming the other person for the breakup of the relationship. In this case, people sometimes start to obsess about who dumped whom, because no one wants to look the fool or be the bad guy, and this is exactly what will happen if the truth of the matter were ever to come out.

To that end, we all tend to obsess over what happened, and often will change circumstances around in our minds to suit our pride and dignity.

It doesn’t really change anything in the long run, except when you decide that you want to get back together with your ex.

In this instance, whether you were the dumper, or the dumpee, matters very much, because it is according to this that you will have to base your decisions on how to win your ex back. 

If you were the dumper

For instance, if you were the dumper, the person who instigated the breakup of the relationship, then you might find that you have to walk on water before you are given a chance to reconcile the relationship.

It won’t matter if you are repentant now, or whether you have solved whatever issues were bugging you which led you to dissolve the relationship.

If your ex has been beleaguered too many times by your methods of working, you might never have a chance in hell of getting back together again.

In this instance, it is better that you walk away from your attempts at reconciliation with your head held high and your dignity intact.

On the other hand, if you still have a chance of getting back together with your ex, then you might have to walk on water to prove your worthiness, but at least you will know that you have better than a snowball’s chance in hell of surviving to see this thing through!

If you were the dumpee

On then other hand, if you were the dumpee, the person who got ditched for one reason or other, then you have a better and in some cases worse, chance of reconciling with your ex than if you were the dumper.

Your chances are better, because there is a good chance that your ex is repenting having broken things off, and you’re also not the one who has to make reparations since you were the dumpee.

And this is also where things can get slightly rocky, because you are the one who is at a disadvantage as you’re the one who wants the person back, and not vice versa.

As the person wanting to get back together, your position will always be weak unless your ex is also of a like mind.

Even as the dumpee, you will need to work harder because your ex left you for a reason, and in all likelihood, the reason was a good one to their way of thinking.